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Over the past few years, we’ve published countless stories on dating and relationships as part of our mental health partnership, Health In Mind. Whether you’re partnered up and looking for ways to improve the health of your relationship, single and proud, or splitting up but trying to do it nicely, we have some tips and tricks for you.
Of course, nothing beats good ol’ fashioned couples counselling (or just plain old counselling, for that matter), but being intentional about yourself, your dates and your relationships is a giant leap in the direction of a lifetime of happiness.
In honour of Valentine’s Day, we’ve gathered some of the best of our relationship stories into this list below so that you can find exactly what you’re looking for. Happy hunting.
01. 33 Ways To Be A Better Partner
In a relationship but looking to keep things good (or get them back on track)? This is the list for you. We cover everything from how to fight “well” to how to keep the love alive with advice garnered from experts with years of experience. Some things on this list might feel like no-brainers to you (well done!) but some might surprise you, so go on and give them all a read for good measure.
02. Is It Actually OK To Be Single?
To be clear, we’re not suggesting that being in a relationship is right for everyone. Being single has a bad rap in our marriage-obsessed culture, but actually, it’s good to get to know yourself on your own before you dive into getting to know other people. Here’s how to improve your relationship with yourself.
03. How To Argue With Your Partner Without It Going Nuclear
Arguing with a partner is, well, awful. But this is real life and in real life, couples have conflict. The key is not letting that conflict get out of control. This story draws on research that shows that happy couples can argue, they just need to do it right. Want to know what that means? Read more to find out.
04. Why Attachment Style Might Be The Deciding Factor In Relationship Success
You may be aware of the concept of attachment style but are you aware that yours might be dictating the health of your relationships? We delved into each style and how it can impact the way you connect with others so that you can start to unravel the mysteries.
05. Modern Dating: An Experts’ Survival Guide
Relationship advice columnists have seen it all – from philandering fellas to romantic ruts. So, it stands to reason they might have learnt a thing or two over the years of reading the queries of the unlucky in love. Want to learn from their experience? So did we.
06. Is Being An Alpha Male Killing Your Dating Vibe?
It’s 2024 and we’re still grappling with gender norms and roles. In one of our most controversial pieces, our writer looks into the “alpha male” online trend and investigates whether that particular trope is past its prime (spoiler alert: it is).
07. How To Get Over Your Fear Of Commitment
Serial dater? One-night-stand wonder? You do you. But if you’re sick of doing this particular version of you, it might be time to read this piece which could help you start on the journey towards breaking some unhealthy relationship patterns in your life.
08. How To Co-Parent Nicely
Contrary to most film interpretations, divorces mustn’t always result in courtroom fireworks and cruel custody battles. If your marriage is over, it is indeed possible to co-parent nicely with your ex. Here’s how.
09. How To Beat Loneliness On Valentine’s Day And Beyond
No partner? No problem. As we’ve established, it’s OK to be single – though it might still result in some feelings of loneliness or sadness. No need to give in to that particular gaping void, though, and our guide will help you through the toughest moments.
10. How To Brush Up On Your Flirting Skills
Perhaps you’ve been striking out a lot, or maybe you’re back on the market after a few years of monogamy. Times have changed, so it’s not a bad idea to retool your flirting techniques. Forgo pick-up artistry in favour of these playful tips.
